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Nov 22, 2023Liked by Rudy Fischmann

This reminded me of college when you and Eric came up to my parents and my dad ended up cooking for us because my mom was on call. Is it sad to miss college???

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No it’s not sad and totally understandable. It was a defining time in our lives and set the stage for the rest of it. There are times I definitely wish I could go back knowing what I know now or at least act less of a douche b. But then I guess I had to go through that stuff to learn better. But yeah, I remember that and how much I really liked Traverse City. I want to say that there was a fair going on related to Cherry Blossom Festival but maybe it was over? I dunno but a terrible version of The Beach Boys were playing and I was not impressed which is funny considering my obsession with them a few years later. I’m still working on the family for a summer road trip. It just doesn’t get any better than summer in Traverse. And yes, this was a very rambly response.

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Nov 22, 2023Liked by Rudy Fischmann

You are very good at expressing yourself. This takes me back to some times in my life when I felt a lot like you have described on Thanksgiving. You have put it all in an accurate perspective. On one note, I can't imagine why friends would abandon a friend when he needs them the most. I know that before I had cancer, I really didn't know what to say to someone who was dying. After cancer, of course I had no problem. I've heard others tell me, " I don't know what to say ". But it can still be painful. I admire your true grit.

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Thanks. I think back to a friend who was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s Lymphoma when I was in my early 20s and cringe at how I responded. I wasn’t terrible but it was so different than how I approach it now for people I know far less.

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Nov 23, 2023Liked by Rudy Fischmann

Yes. Life is definitely a learning process.

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Thanksgiving at my family gatherings got a whole lot more tolerable when I visited years later and realized I could sneak booze in there. In other words, it was a painful ordeal growing up.

I think I approach New Year's Eve/Day the same way you approach Thanksgiving. I like that reevaluation of where I'm at vis a vis my goals and principles. It's a good thing to do.

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I also treat New Year’s the same too. I do a lot of overthinking.

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I'm a fan of both overthinking and underthinking. I try to do almost exclusively one or the other all day, every day.

Wait, no, that's not what I try to do!

I'm going to need to think more about this response.

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